05 Jan Success Mindset – How Can Failures Help You Succeed
Some people see failure as a sign of weakness while others view it as a challenge. What about you? How do you see failure?
Do you still remember the first time you experienced failure? You felt so low and miserable — you do not want to show your face to anyone. Failure can arise from several factors. This includes:
- Missing a deadline
- Calling your date by the wrong name
- Inability to answer a question during a job interview
- Messing up a performance for a school presentation
- And more
The Response Immediately After the Failure
There are two immediate responses to failure. These are:
- Negative Response
Blaming other people for failing is a natural response. However, doing so will only lead to another failure.
- Positive Response
Accept the mistake you have made. Recognize that things went wrong because of your fault. Acceptance will make you to learn from that mistake and to make better decisions.
Treat failure as a teaching experience. The willingness to accept failure will result to learnings that are more positive.
What Failures Teach You
“Our greatest glory is not in never failing but in rising every time we fail.” Confucius
- Failure teaches you that hard work leads to success.
- It teaches you to persevere to reach your goal.
- It teaches you to trust your intuition and not to trust everyone who commits to helping you.
Failures differ in size, presentation, and effect. Some are smaller while some are huge. Some are open or known by everyone while some are private or known by a few. Some can be more humiliating that may dishonor you for years or even a lifetime. However, learning to accept your faults will give you a higher percentage of getting the results you want.
Failure in Your Everyday Life
- Failure At Work
Failure at work is frightening. It is even scarier if you decided to put up your own business or do freelance work. By this, you will have to depend on your skills, talents, and mindset.
Failure at work can lead to loss of earnings, integrity, and opportunity. Does it mean then that you should never fail at work? Does fear of failure distract you in attaining what you really want in your career/work or does it lead you to success?
Failure at work helps attain what you want in your work or career. Learn how to turn failure into an experience that helps you reach your goal or desired outcome. Once you have done this, you will view failure as a strength to grow your skills.
Whether failure is an educational or emotional benefit, it will make you succeed in your chosen career. It will also allow you to earn more. The best benefit, though, is you will be able to help people to pursue their dreams in spite of failures.
- Failure At Home
Failure can be a strength at home. Failed relationships usually lead to indifference or alienation. If you accept a failed relationship and seek help, you will be able to find a new love and finally have a happy relationship.
Adults are not the only people who should experience failures. Kids should experience it, too. Allow your kids to fail so they can improve their skills and become better persons. Let your kids realize that failure teaches them to persevere and to be stronger. You snatch the benefits of failure if you deny your kids the experience of failing.
- Failure in Your Soul
What does it mean when you say ‘failure in the soul”? This means taking failure too deeply, allowing it to destroy your whole being, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
How do you feel when you fail and friends try to pacify you or tell you to move on and forget about failure? Do you tell yourself — “They do not know me. They do not understand how I feel.” Do you wallow in pain and humiliation instead of taking the experience as something good?
Free yourself from the bondage of failure by:
- Recognizing that failure does not define you.
- Learning to accept failure and acknowledging these to other people.
- Use failure to your advantage.
Attitude is an important virtue when it comes to failures. You can choose to commit more failures or choose to fail continually.
Keep in mind that every human being experiences failure. Most failures are necessary for you to grow, to be stronger, and to succeed in any endeavor!
Aim to make peace with your past, present, and future failures! Let other people know these. Share these with the people you know and you will realize that they, too, experience failures! Do not allow failure to bog you down or decelerate you, instead let it drive you into attaining your dreams and bringing amazing and positive rewards!
Should you encounter failure again, tell yourself the positive benefits of failure and reap its good rewards!