29 Mar Relationship – Keeping Modern Technology from Ruling Over Your Life
Technology made large populations possible; large populations now make technology indispensable.
–Joseph Wood Krutch
Modern technology takes center stage in the lives of almost everyone. Look around and you will see people hooked on their smartphones, laptop, notebook, tablet, iPhone, and other gadgets. Even in restaurants you will see people seated at a table with their phones or laptop. Even families are caught in this technology frenzy. Social media like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram; emails and texting keep us busy. Although modern technology easily connects us to others, it also disconnects us from our loved ones and even from ourselves.
Do you use your phone as an alarm clock? Well, this is exactly a good example of how you’ve become dependent on technology. This habit can make you feel like a programmed robot, tempting you to open your email and respond to these, or check Facebook or Twitter, instead of getting out of bed to interact with your spouse or kids, wash your face, take a shower, or eat breakfast.
Don’t Be Techie-Dependent
Technology plays a significant role in most relationship problems. This includes poor communication, insecurity, and jealousy. Trust, which is a big factor in any kind of relationship, is put to the test with one partner stalking the other party via the latter’s emails or social media accounts. The other party, on the other hand, preoccupies himself/herself by focusing on the phone to disguise indifference.
If you are falling into this trip, it is time to switch off and live like a human being.
- Keep gadgets at a distance
Keep mobile phones and TV out of the dining room. Having them nearby will only entice you to reach for it or watch a show while eating with the family. If you have a TV in the bedroom, take it out now. Research has shown that television takes away the intimacy between husbands and wives. Set the phone in silent mode or turn it off in areas of the home intended for family bonding or conversation. If there are urgent calls, program or set your phone to receive notification from these specific numbers only.
- Set a time for technology bonding
The use of technology while your spouse or family is around is not a totally bad idea. Watching TV together is another form of bonding. Set a time to use technology together, such as a time to play interactive games via your smartphones. When used appropriately, couples or families using tech together will build a better sense of affection, closeness, control, and safety.
Being glued to your laptop or tablet in the presence of your partner does not produce good results, though. Studies show that a big percentage of American couples admit annoyance and disappointment with a partner who is technology dependent or obsessive. A 2013 research revealed that excessive use of Facebook is the real culprit to broken relationships.
- Find time to communicate
Communication is essential for any relationship to last, whether it is a husband-wife relationship, parent-children, sibling-sibling, and even friend relationship. The absence of communication distances you from the others. It even distances you from yourself. You may justify that sending email, texts, and messages via Facebook messenger are forms of communication. While you may be correct, it lacks the intensity of warmth and sincerity seen during person-to-person communication.
Messages sent through technology are brief, crisp, and terse. There is always the possibility for the recipient to misunderstand the sender’s message. It is difficult to discern the other person in several different circumstances when they do not have a complete understanding of the whole situation.
- Be honest and sincere
Not sharing your passwords to your phone, laptop, email, and social media accounts to your partner are your prerogative. However, it is different if you refuse to friend your partner on Facebook, Twitter, or other social media accounts. The latter creates a cloud of suspicion. Pressing your partner of the password unreasonably can also be upsetting. Be honest and sincere to prevent mistrust. It is true that every person deserves a right to his privacy but privacy and secrecy are two different things and you need to know their limitations.
- Get connected
As long as you live, you will experience varied intensities of emotions. Some of these may prompt you to shut yourself off from other people or make you exhausted. Once you do this, you deny yourself of being connected, of being loved, and of experiencing true joy. Knowing how to step out of your comfort zone and conquering your fear of susceptibility will help in building healthier habits and encourage a more fulfilling relationship. This, in turn, will open up new opportunities to achieve the freedom you look for and self-fulfillment.
All this modern technology just makes people try to do everything at once. –Bill Watterson
The invention of technology does not intend to break relationships or build animosity. When used correctly, it can bring you closer to your partner, loved ones, and even build new relationships. The only thing technology ruins your relationship is when you allow it to.