23 Jun 5 Secrets of Empowerment
Think of a moment in your life when you felt the most excited and you actually believed that you could achieve that idea that kept circling your mind. So much that you actually got started.
But then the fears crept in. And the weaknesses. And the laziness. And then you forgot exactly what and why you were doing this.
Empower yourself to overcome this hurdle. This is how.
Let’s get real. You try to start working out again only to realize that it’s a lot harder than it was ten years ago. Later, still wallowing in discouragement, you say, “I’m so fat.”
You’re well-meaning friend is quick to shout back, “No, you’re not. You’re perfect just the way you are!”
Temporarily stifling guilt is not empowerment.
Empowerment begins with honesty. Lying, blaming and victimizing yourself to relieve guilt or responsibility will not empower you, but weaken your ability to overcome.
Becoming a parent took a toll. I was stressed and felt like I would never be good enough. The more I hid that guilt by eating and pretending like I didn’t care, the more I felt guilt and shame for gaining weight. Now it’s limiting my opportunities for enjoyment.
Get It Out There
Take at least fifteen minutes for yourself and pull that truth out of the shadows. Get a clean, white piece of paper and write it in sharpie.
I am out of shape. I am not living the healthy lifestyle that I could be. I lack energy and drive. I can’t do the active things that I want. I can’t keep up. This feels out of control.
Now look at those words and say them out loud. Saying the words out loud will help you internalize them. This has become your reality, but you can change that.
You can’t go anywhere if you don’t know where you’re going. You need to know not just what you want, but why.
Set a deadline. Give it a number. Make it measurable. You know the drill.
On August first I will have lost the first 15 pounds. I will have healthy snacks in my pantry and fresh vegetables in my fridge. I will be able to jog one full mile in 10 minutes. I will be able to get through the day without falling asleep. I will feel refreshed when I wake up in the morning.
This is your vision. Picture it. Feel it. Live in it. Can you imagine yourself there? Are you there right now? If you can’t envision it, it won’t come true.
Live in it every day until it becomes your reality.
Make a Plan
What is a goal without a plan? Where will you have to be every week to stay on track? Every day?
Write it in your calendar. And again with the honesty. If you know that you’re not going to be able to run a mile by the end of the first week, don’t make that you’re goal just because it sounds like that’s what someone else should be doing.
There is no secret to accelerating success but hard work itself.
Break it down and be real.
By the end of this week, be able to walk a whole mile without stopping. Next week be able to jog half and walk half. That means that first day you’ve just got to get yourself outside and walk.
Give yourself steps and achieve them.
Doing is power. Doing is proving that it can be done. Once you accomplish one step, you are 100% more likely to achieve your goal than you were when you were doing nothing about it.
You can empower yourself again. Right now. Start all over again if that’s what it takes. Honesty is the key. And once you’ve empowered yourself, go empower the world.
Also, that piece of paper with yesterday’s reality on it– Go throw it away. Today’s reality is already different.