The majority of the people spend their lives learning about the things that can make them happy and this, at times, can be extremely overwhelming. Have you ever wondered the things you can ‘ignore’ or ‘just stop’ doing in order to be happier?
More often, the key to happiness is letting go off the negativity that weigh us down in our lives. Here are 10 things that happy people tend to ignore and as a result live happier:
While it’s absolutely fine to turn back the pages of old memories that make you feel happy. While It is not turning back to the old memories, but more of a way to reflect on the good times that you enjoyed in the past. As we try to map our way through our experiences there is no point living in the past and reliving it. Happy people avoid doing this as they live in present. When their present is not so happy, they try to build hopes for future rather than sticking to the memories of their past.
Comparing yourself to others
Paying too much attention to what others are doing is not healthy for your life. When you start constantly comparing your life with others it can make you feel low. After all, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
Finding only the negatives in other people
Nobody in this world is 100% perfect. Focus on the strengths of other people and ignore their weaknesses. Accept the people the way they are!
Worry about what others think about you
It is good to be validated by others to improve yourself, but seeking validation from others all the time will not help you. Only when you stop thinking about others and trying to live up to others’ expectations, then you will be able to discover your real image and can be true to yourself.
Blame yourself for the failures
Stop blaming yourself for your failures. When we grow up we realize that we cannot always live the life of our dreams due to varied reasons. Be happy with what you have achieved rather than blaming yourself for not achieving what you have dreamt of.
Hold onto bitter experiences
Well, you don’t need to forget the evil that has been done to you. All you can and should do is just let go the anger and pain that you carry. Happy people believe in forgiving for the sake of their own well-being because holding bitter experiences hurts them the most!
Stay in uncomfortable situations
It is good to be committed, but not at the cost of your happiness, well being and integrity. Happy people often avoid staying in such situations that they know are going to make their lives uncomfortable.
One thing that happy people would not do is lie to themselves. They accept the fact that some truth can’t be accepted easily. One needs to face some level of pain, fear, loss and anger to live an honest and true life.
Hold others responsible for their mistakes
We all make mistakes. It is ok to make mistakes but happy people tend to evaluate what went wrong and create a strategy on how to ensure the mistake won’t happen again.
If you are constantly bothered about what others are doing it simply means you are not living in your own life. Your existence will be meaningful only when you focus on your personal life rather than that of others. In short, always mind your own business!